Holidays Are Not All They’re Cracked Up To Be! Here’s How To Deal.

Holidays Are Not All They're Cracked Up To Be! Here's How To Deal.

Good for you if you enjoy the Winter Holidays! It seems however, that you are in the minority. Between trying to please everyone with foods, gifts, your presence at their house and not the in-laws, travel and having to pretend to be having the best time, it’s exhausting! Not to mention being exposed to family dynamics that can get you down, throw you off and all that. We can meet up and celebrate life with family and friends anytime of the year so why do we have to squeeze it all into one day, week, month? Traditions. Blah. Break them and create your own that will make you happy instead of sad and/or stressed. Here are some ideas to stay true to yourself during this busy season (and the whole year through too):

Avoid Stress Triggers

You must know what these triggers are before you can learn to avoid them. When trying to identify what puts you over the edge it is helpful to make a list of these things, people and situations that trigger your stress/anxiety, sadness. Even if you only know 1 or 2, write them down and then plan your holiday time so that you don’t have to encounter them or at least minimize your exposure.

Don’t Schedule/Plan Too Much 

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If you are hosting the holiday event you of course must plan and schedule but consider trimming it all down. I come from an Italian background so everything is all about food, all the time. Over the years I’ve come to realize that 3 pasta dishes will suffice, no need to knock myself out making 5. Think up at least a few ways that you can minimize your planning and scheduling. Accepting invitations to only a couple of parties instead of all 10 you were invited to is one thought. Come up with a few more!

SLEEP! 

Consistently getting a full night’s sleep (8 hours) is essential when trying to deal with Holiday stress. Any stress really. Read here for tips for better sleep. Until your nighttime sleeping is deep and full try to sneak a nap in here and there. There’s no shame in it! Really! I love my naps.

Try Aromatherapy

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Citrus fragrances boost levels of mood-balancing hormones, strengthen immunity, purify air quality. Purchase some essential oils like Orange, Grapefruit or Lemon. Use them in a diffuser or put a few drops on a cotton ball and inhale anytime you need a pick-me-up.

Limit Your Use Of Electronic Devices 

Switch phone off as much as you can and don’t carry it with you unless you are waiting for an urgent call. Only check emails and texts once or twice a day at a specific time and watch/listen to limited TV/News. All the negative reports effect you more than you can imagine not to mention all the negative Electromagnetic radiation you’re absorbing from these devices.

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The one thing I do enjoy about Christmas is the fragrance that the live Balsam emits through the house. (Of course you must plant a tree/trees in its place!) Any form of nature brings healing and grounded energy to you so as much as is possible, get outside and breathe the fresh air or bring elements of nature indoors in the form of plants, flowers, feathers, acorns, pinecones, leaves, etc. If the weather isn’t too abominable on Christmas Day, I’m in favor of taking a walk either alone or with whoever wants to join (as long as they don’t chatter the whole time!) after dinner and before dessert.

Avoid Crowded Malls/Shopping Centers

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Unless you shop very early, before the mad rush starts I recommend shopping on-line. No lines, no parking problems, no crowds, no scurrying about  only to find the items you want are not stocked. Shopping is such a soul crushing activity anyway and the poor air quality and constant sensory stimulation will wear you out in a snap!

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It doesn’t have to be Holiday Music. Play any music that makes you feel good and happy. I enjoy a few traditional holiday tunes but the same tunes over and over is no good. Change it up with some Jazz versions , Trans-Siberian Orchestra , The Messiah or if none of this does the trick just enjoy whatever music you like.

Help Those Less Fortunate

Volunteering may seem counterintuitive because you have to schedule yet another thing to do but the feeling you will get from helping others will far exceed the troubles. This always helps to remind me of the true meaning of the Holidays and also just how lucky I am. You can do this alone or enlist a friend to go with you. Help others and help yourself at the same time by affirming your own blessings, which by the way, will elevate the more you put yourself out there and open your heart!  You could also consider foregoing gifts for the family and instead donate that money to a favorite or worthy charity. Read: Other Ways To Give.

Breathe

Take 5 minutes a day (the same time of day is best to form a habit) to breathe consciously. Sit or lie down in a comfortable quiet area and simply follow your natural breathing pattern, watching your breath come in and out. To shake it up try different breathing patterns like Square Breathing, or Counting Your Breaths, etc. Schedule a private session -(8th option down) to learn Breath Meditation techniques. Notice how calm you feel after this brief session.

Plan An Intimate Date

Instead of attending crowded functions, schedule a luncheon with one or 2 close friends in a quiet spot perfect for sharing and catching up.

Exercise  Holidays Are Not All They're Cracked Up To Be! Here's How To Deal., Exercise, REiki of Greater Boston

As you know by now exercise reduces stress (and weight!) so do it daily during this busy season. You don’t have to hit the gym everyday but move your body in some way. Walk, dance, do some yoga or stretching. Ahhh… much better.

Manage Food Intake

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Oh this can be a tough one! For me though, the stress of having to take the weight off after I gorge myself is worse than saying no to Canollis and Pumpkin Pie. Some things that help me to stay on track: Eat Mindfully. This means slowly and with awareness. Pay attention to what you’re putting in your mouth, how it tastes, smells and feels. Drink lots of water throughout the day, especially right before your meals. Bring your own food! I know it seems rude but I don’t really care and neither should you or your friends if they respect your intentions for your health. Baggies full of veggies and fruits and nuts, water bottles and protein bars are easy, unintrusive snacks. Allow Yourself 1 Cheat Food Per Gathering (unless you have excessive gatherings!). Be reasonable and strike a balance.

Treat Yourself

My favorite suggestion to follow! Do something that makes you feel good. (Yes, it can be sex!) Things like Spa Treatments: facials, massages, Reiki Healing and bubble baths come to mind. Others may enjoy painting, reading or dancing. There are certainly ways to treat yourself that are within your budget. This will keep you less Grinch-like through what can be a difficult season.  Holidays Are Not All They're Cracked Up To Be! Here's How To Deal., Treat Yourself, Reiki of Greater Boston

So try a few of these suggestions and I’m sure I’ll see you all Healthy and Calm on the Other Side of The Holidays! Read: More Ways to Put Some Chill Time Into Your Life.

Love, Lisa purple_heart

Owner Reiki of Greater Boston, Waltham, LIfe Coach, Yoga

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DE-STRESS FEST! 30 Fool Proof Ways to Chill

30 Ways to de-stress

Stress. We all have it whether you acknowledge it or not. It is impossible to live in this crazy world and stay calm without making a conscious effort to diminish it.

The issues of stress and anxiety are brought to my attention everyday as people of all ages come into my office looking for some bit of relief from their often chronic anxious state.

Facts About Stress

As we know, the stress that comes with the Flight or Fight response is a safety guard to protect our lives but living in this constant state of hyper alertness results in imbalance, ill-health and disease.

2017 studies done by The American Institute of Stress shows just how widespread and detrimental stress is:

U.S Stress Statistics Data
Percent of people who regularly experience physical symptoms caused by stress 77 %
Regularly experience psychological symptoms caused by stress 73 %
Feel they are living with extreme stress 33 %
Feel their stress has increased over the past five years 48 %
Cited money and work as the leading cause of their stress 76 %
Reported lying awake at night due to stress 48 %

And according to National Institute of Mental Health approximately 1 out of 75 people may experience panic disorder! This is serious people!

 Detrimental Effects and Symptoms of Chronic Stress

Effects of Chronic Stress, 30 ways to de-stress

  • Inability to concentrate or make simple decisions
  • Memory lapses
  • Acne
  • Easily distracted
  • Less intuitive & creative
  • Worrying
  • Pervasive Negative thinking
  • Depression & anxiety
  • Tearful
  • Irritable
  • Mood swings
  • Extra Sensitive to stimuli and criticism
  • Feeling out of control
  • Lack of motivation
  • Angry
  • Frustration
  • Low self-esteem
  • Aches/pains/Body SorenessEffects of Stress, 30 ways to de-stress
  • Chest Pain
  • Racing Thoughts
  • Frequent colds/infections
  • Allergies/rashes/skin irritations
  • Constipation/diarrhea
  • Weight loss or gain
  • Indigestion/heartburn/ulcers
  • Hyperventilating
  • Dizziness/palpitations
  • Panic attacks
  • Strokes
  • Nausea
  • Physical tiredness
  • Menstrual changes
  • Loss of libido/sexual problems
  • Heart problems/high blood pressure
  • Prone to accidents, forgetfulness
  • Increased reliance on alcohol, smoking, caffeine, recreational or illegal drugs
  • Self neglect/change in appearance
  • Social withdrawal
  • Relationship problems
  • Insomnia
  • Recklessness
  • Aggressiveness/angry outbursts
  • Weight gain/loss
  • Auto-immune issues: M.S., Lupus, Graves, etc.
Let’s reduce and even prevent all this nightmarish nonsense shall we? Here’s how.

My Favorite Ways To Shield From Stress

If you can prevent the stress from entering your life so much the better. Stress prevention is the ideal. Some of the items listed below will help you with this. I know though that it is not always possible to prevent stress or to even know what it is that is causing the stress. Sometimes it feels like there’s nothing there that should be stressing you out and sometimes it feels like everything is causing the stress. Some of the items listed below will help you once the stress has entered your life to either reduce your reaction to it and/or to reduce the stress itself. Check it out!

30 ways to to de-stress, 30 ways to prevent stress

  1. Identify Triggers. Recognize what situations or people make you less than happy and do your best to avoid them. I would say this is my most trusted defense in the battle against stress/anxiety/depression. 

2. Exercise. Ideally your’e exercising 3-5 days/week. If you do this you will feel better, calmer and stronger inside and out. Scientists have found that regular participation in aerobic exercise has been shown to decrease overall levels of tension, elevate and stabilize mood, improve sleep, and improve self-esteem. Even five minutes of aerobic exercise can stimulate anti-anxiety effects. If you are unable to exercise regularly then at least try it when you feel particularly anxious or had a very difficult day. HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) is efficient and effective. There are free Apps to help you. Try Keep Trainer or SworkIT.

3. Sleep. The amount of sleep you need to function your best differs at different ages and between individuals but 7-8 hours is consistently recommended by scientific studies. Even if nothing is taunting you, you know you get cranky if you don’t have enough sleep!

4. Eat Well. You know what this means. Lean meats, vegetables, fruits, grains, legumes. This item and some of the others on this list are shoring up your body, mind and spirit to be able to cope better with any discomfort that comes your way.

5. Vacation Often. It doesn’t have to be a grand vacation. Just a couple of days will do nicely but do it often. At least every 2 months at a minimum but more certainly will not hurt.  In America we tend to take merely 2-3 weeks of vacation per year and we save that up to take it all at once so we’re just waiting and waiting all year for that release time. Not good for the stress. I have learned over the years that I need to have significant down time at least every other month. Your thresh hold may be different but once you know what you need, make it happen and you will be so much happier and less stressed.

6. Meditate or be in stillness. Can you be in stillness? Quiet and alone? Try it. It might be scary at first but eventually it’s beautiful., calming and peaceful.  And if you’re not already meditating you might consider beginning a practice. Read here.

7. Gratitude Journal. When you’re feeling anxious try thinking about 1 thing you are grateful for. Write it down, write about it and then think of it throughout the day and especially anytime anxiety comes to call.  This takes the mind out of the negative spin that it tends to enter when we become tense. Learn more about starting a Journaling Practice.

8. Tap in to and listen to your inner guidance system.  Intuition, gut, psychic knowledge – we are all born with these gifts which most of us have lost over the years. To strengthen these important  skills you simply have to use them. Pay attention to what your body is saying to you and when you get brave enough start acting on that voice.  It takes a while to trust this knowledge but it will not steer you wrong and will ultimately lead you onto the ‘right’ path where stress will rarely exist.

9. Take actions toward your goals. Dreaming and imagining the life you want to live is an excellent first step but second, third and 4th steps, etc. must be taken to  prevent these dreams from becoming another sources of stress. Small baby steps each and every day will get you there and make you feel more empowered along the way. Just do something. One little thing! And another tomorrow and soon it’ll get easier and before you know it you’re right where you want to be.

10. Increase physical human contact. Yes, more sex will reduce that stress! Yay! If that’s not up your alley then at least hug someone every day and if touching humans is is unappealing then give some love to a pet.

11. Unplug. At a minimum shut your phone and computer and TV off at least an hour before bed. Too much stimuli, too much information bombarding us day and night! We don’t even realize how much it effects us or how much negative information we are exposed to by these electronic ‘miracles’. Have you tried counting how many times/day you check your social media accounts?! Or how much time you spend being exposed to EMFs? It is scary.  Try one day a week to not watch any TV or listen to any news radio or access any social media. It’s very peaceful.

12. Yoga Mudra. Mudras are just hand positions that control energies. The one I like best for relaxation is Vayu Mudra. Do it with both hands at the same time for 5 minutes or longer. If possible practice this with your spine erect but you can really do it anywhere. Use it to prevent stress from effecting you as deeply and also to reduce it once it hits you.Yoga Mudra for relaxation, 30 ways to de-stress, reikiofgreaterboston

13. Yoga.  A yoga practice is key to maintaining balance and calm in the face of stressors. If you can hook into a class that is convenient to your home/work then I would do this. If time and money is limited then find some free on-line classes and if that is too difficult for you then at least practice Viparita Karani (Legs Up the Wall Pose) daily for at least 5 minutes. Upon going to be or waking up are convenient times of the day to practice: Yoga for relaxation, 30 ways to de-stress

14. Reiki. Reiki resets, balances and aligns your body and its energies so that you are in the best state to heal yourself from stress or any other unpleasantness that comes your way. Read more about this healing energy here or book your appointment with me here.

15. Clear and Organize. Living in a messy, cluttered space is not conducive to maintaining a clear, calm state of mind. Get rid of shit that you don’t use, don’t like, don’t want (even though someone nice gave it to you). Keep only things that bring you joy! Taking this thought further you can set up a special place in your home for de-stressing. Read here and here.

16. Crystal Therapy.  To combat stress and anxiety the crystals that clients seem to find most helpful are: Blue Lace Agate, Rose Quartz, Clear Quartz, Amethyst. healing crystals for relaxation, 30 ways to de-stressOnce you get them you can wear them in the form of jewelry or carry them with you in a pocket or a bra, hold them in your hands while meditating or just sitting. They do need to be cared for so if this method of relaxation is of interest to you please text or email me and I will let you know where to purchase, more about how to work with them and care for these magical stones.

17. Supplements. These supplements have been shown to relax an anxious soul: Melatonin Magnesium,Valerian Root. Follow directions on the bottle. Try one at a time and give each a good 2 week shot before you assess its efficacy.

18. Essential Oils. I mention these oils and how to use them in ‘You’re Getting Sleepy’. Look there for more information. Lavender, Rose, Chamomile.

19. Listen to music or make your own music. I’d give you some music that I find relaxing (like this) but you may not find it so. Some clients tell me they find hard -rock, heavy metal or Blues relaxing and these make me more anxious so we are all needing something different. Identify music that calms you down and listen to it daily or specifically when you’re stressed. Making music may calm you too even if you’re not ‘musical’ you can bang on a drum which you can find inexpensively or if you already play an instrument do that or SING! Everyone can sing. You don’t have to be on key, just enjoy the beat, the rhythm, the emotion, the lyrics, etc.

20. Do things that make you happy and bring you joy. It makes me so sad when I ask people what it is that brings them joy and they really have no idea! If you don’t know, it’s worth investigating. These are things that make you feel free, light and joyful with not a care in the world. Engaging in these activities regularly (at least 1x/week but preferably daily!) will keep stress away. Is there something that you’ve always wanted to do but never tried or something you’d participate in if you had more time or something that you used to do as a kid that made you happy but you haven’t done it for years? Do those things and see how they make you feel.

21. Say No.  And say no regularly. Only say yes if you really want to, if what you’re saying yes to is going to add something to your life. Saying yes to every invitation you’re extended will likely be a waste of time and cause lots of anxiety.

22. Spend time with people who make you laugh/happy. If you don’t have any of those people in your life then you must find some but until then spend time alone instead of with people who add nothing or negativity to your life.

23. Forgive. Holding on to anger or resentment is a major cause of stress. Do yourself a big favor and forgive. Yes, they’re wrong and they should apologize but most times it’s not worth the effort to talk sense into these perpetrators. Move on for your own health. Read more on Forgiveness.forgiveness a way to de-stress, 30 ways to de-stress

24. Let Go of Control. Are you a control freak? I know it’s hard to let go especially when you’ve likely been trying to control things all of your life. It’s a waste of time because it takes much  more energy to control than to let go and most of the things you’re trying to direct are not worth your energy. Things will work out as they should. This does not mean that you can’t be involved with things that you care about and do your best and then let it go. This one can be complicated and involve many steps to get to letting go but at least start by acknowledging that this is an issue for you. 

25. Express Your self. Holding your feelings and emotions in is not ideal! Eventually these feelings will eat you alive. Somehow they will be released and not in the most productive way. Let them out somehow before they control you. Journaling is my go to release. If you are the artistic type draw or paint your feelings, dance it out or write a poem or song or maybe a letter to the person who you feel caused the feelings. You don’t have to give it to them but getting it out on paper will free you!

26. Spend Time in Nature. Ahhh. One of my favorite things to do to calm down. I understand that not everyone is the ‘outdoorsy’ type and if that is the case then being in deep nature may cause you panic with all the bugs and animals milling about you. Consider then just sitting on a towel on the beach and breathe in the salt air, listen to the waves. If you are open to the forest setting I would recommend going deep into the woods alone. Get lost even. Try Forest Bathing -retreating to nature to immerse in the forest atmosphere.

27. Herbal Teas. Try Chamomile, Lavender or Cup Of Calm (Traditional Medicines Teas).

28. Breathe. A 5 minute a day breathing practice will help you to learn to inhale and exhale completely training the body what to do should you begin to hold your breath in times of stress. If you do not want to commit to this daily practice then just implement complete breathing when you begin to feel anxious, making sure to release all the breath completely when you exhale.

29. Squeeze & Release. This method does nothing for me but some people swear by it. My anxiety prone clients recommend this Squeeze Toy. Squeeze away your stressIt has a harder consistency than most. Almost like a clay. Another option is to carry a small smooth stone with you. Whenever you feel tense, put the stone in the palm of your hand and then squeeze the stone and then slowly release. Do this a few times and feel the tension leave your body.

30. Let Only Good Thoughts In. This takes practice but along with #1 is most important for me personally in preventing stress, anxiety and depression. The moment you notice your mind spinning with a negative thought or image switch it out with a beautiful image or happy thought. You will have to do this over and over again until the positive thought state is your norm. This method will be supported by many of the other items previously listed especially limiting your exposure to negative people/situation and limiting your exposure to News through TV, Radio, Social Media, and to engage in activities that bring you joy.

Tests to assess your stress, 30 ways to de-stress

Here are a couple of fun Stress Tests you can take to assess your level of stress: 1. , 2. even though you likely already know!

Well, try some of my recommendations and let me know how they do for you!

Love, Lisa purple_heart

Owner Reiki of Greater Boston, Waltham, LIfe Coach, Yoga

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Me? Meditate? I Don’t Think so!

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Most people come into my office for services because they are feeling ‘off’ in some way and know they can be better. A majority are stressed and anxious, have trouble sleeping, etc. but when I ask them if they’ve tried meditation this is how they look at me!

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Me? Meditate? I Don’t Think So!

Meditation gets a bad rap in some circles with people believing that sitting still in lotus pose like a Buddha is a requirement. I used to think that too and being a fairly active person with a penchant for large muscle movement, this pose did not appeal to me either but this notion is quite far from the truth. There are many different and fun ways to meditate and still reap the benefits!

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Some of The Benefits of Meditation

  • Increases immune function
  • Decreases Pain
  • Decreases Inflammation at the Cellular Level
  • Increases HappinessDecreases Depression
  • Decreases Anxiety
  • Decreases Stress
  • Increases your sense of connection to others
  • Increases compassion
  • Decreases feelings of loneliness
  • Increases ability to control emotions
  • Increases grey matter (memory) and cortical thickness (attention span)
  • Improves productivity and creativity
  • Improves ability to sleep
  • Decreases need for sleep
  • Improves perspective
  • Improves ability to express your authentic self
  • Decreases drama in your life

Despite all these life improving benefits, people come up with excuses,  fears and reasons not to participate in meditation.

Some Common Reasons People Give for Why They ‘Can’t’ Meditate

  1. I can’t sit still
  2. I can’t clear my mindMeditation at reikiofgreaterboston waltham
  3. I don’t have time
  4. I don’t have a quiet place
  5. Quiet makes me anxious
  6. It’s boring

Addressing each of the above:

  1. There is no need to sit still to meditate. There are many meditation methods that involve movement/activity. Try Walking Meditation, Vinyasa (Flow)Yoga, Tea Ceremony Meditation, Chanting.
  2. Even master meditators have trouble clearing their minds sometimes. Having a clear mind is not a requirement for meditation. In fact I welcome the distracting thoughts because they give me an opportunity to practice placing my focus back on what I’m doing. Meditational focal points could be the breath, a mantra, a candle flame, etc. This is the practice – noticing the unclear mind and bringing your focus back to attention, over and over. Meditation is practice not perfection. (The practice of meditation is perfection though!)
  3. No time? Nonsense!

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    NO Time? Nonsense!
  4. You don’t have to meditate for long periods to reap the rewards. To beginners I recommend 5 minutes in the morning and 5 minutes at night. 10 minutes a day. I know you have that available to you and if you cannot make that time for your sanity and improved quality of life then you are not quite ready to progress in this area of your life. At this time, there is something about being unsettled/unhealthy that is more compelling to you than grounded living. This is ok! We are all at different places in our journeys.  Clients who give the reason of no time for meditation seem to find meditating while lying down in bed just before sleep at night and/or before they get up in the morning an easy way to ease into it all.You may not be able to get a quiet place to meditate at home because you live with noisy people or people who demand your attention. Look elsewhere. Perhaps there is a place outside somewhere, in a park or your backyard that will offer more peace for you. Maybe at work there is a place you can go to at lunch break – an empty office? Eventually you will not need pure quiet to meditate. Being able to achieve calm among the noise is the ultimate goal so practicing with a bit of a ruckus can be beneficial.Meditation at reikiofgreaterboston waltham
  5. Uncomfortable with quiet? See #4.
  6. With so many meditation methods there is bound to be at least one that will pique and keep your interest!

I believe beneath these excuses is a fear of discovering deep truths. This fear is usually not conscious. It can be scary looking in the mirror of your mind but it is the only way to move beyond the crap on a more permanent basis.

Consistency is key. I find 5 minutes a day better than 30 minutes once a week. You may not notice the benefit immediately (but you may!), either way, if you continue, you will  notice how strong, grounded, calm, level-headed, compassionate, etc. you’ve become and you will need to go buy and wear a shirt that says, ‘SPIRITUAL WARRIOR!’

There are too many types of meditation to list here but here are:

 Some of the More Popular Meditation Methods

  • Walking– Just walk and pay attention. Walk slow, walk fast, feel your feet. Notice.
  • Metta Meditation at reikiofgreaterboston walthamMetta (Loving Kindness)-I love this one because I get to send myself some love first! Use loving statements starting with yourself as recipient. 1. May I be/feel: “fill in the blank”: happy, loved, peaceful, etc. 2. Next think of some one you like or are thankful for use the same statement with them in mind: May they be “fill in the blank”. 3. Someone you feel neutral about. 4. Someone who pushes your buttons, disturbs your peace. 5. All beings/The Universe/The Earth.
  • Mantra– You can use traditional Mantras like ‘Sat Nam’ or I am Truth. I like “I am Light’ and here’s a beautiful song about that for you to enjoy and absorb. You can also make up your own Mantra that means something to you like: My heart is open and free or I am One with All.
  • Sound-Do this lying down or seated. Allow all sounds to enter your awareness and let them be.
  • Guided/Visualization-Use a meditation app like Head Space or Insight Timer. Candle Flame Meditation at reikiofgreaterboston walthamCandle Flame– Soften your gaze and focus on a candle flame. You may receive messages or see images as time passes. Bring your focus back to the flame over and over again as you notice your mind wandering.
  • Mindfulness-In short, become aware of each movement, sound, thought, etc. Watch all as the observer.
  • Chanting- Chant along with some traditional sanskrit prayers. Here’s an example. It’s ok if you mess up the words just feel it all and open your throat.
  • Breathwork-Simply watch your breath come in and out (without losing focus on the breath). It’s harder than it sounds. You can also find a breathing pattern that feels good to you. Square breathing, for example, is a basic breathing technique that is not too difficult to work with.
  • Journaling-Write anything! Your dreams, your thoughts, ideas, disturbances, things that you’re grateful for, goals, feelings. Have fun! Always have fun.Meditation at reikiofgreaterboston walthamEngaging in an activity that absorbs you: working on a puzzle, a math problem, dancing, singing any art form or creative practice. Merge and become one with the activity.

C’mon now! Pick one and just give it a try for me. For yourself! If you’d like a little bit of guidance book a private session with me (it’s the 8th option down on that link) and you’ll be on your way in no time.

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World Mental Health Day; We’re All Crazy If You Ask Me

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I was remiss in not acknowledging World Mental Health Day this past Tuesday, October 10th especially since some of my favorite peeps are living with Mental Health issues!

World Mental Health Day, October 10, Reiki of Greater Boston
This day was established by the World Health Organization 25 years ago in order to promote awareness of this issue.

I’m not big on labels. I know I’m not suppose to use the word ‘crazy’ but I’m very close to this community if not part of it and they know I mean no disrespect. People are sometimes labeled ‘crazy’ or ‘Mentally Ill’ just because they don’t follow expectations of society. That is just pure nonsense!

Really, who’s to say who is Mentally Ill or Mentally Healthy? I was providing Reiki on a Locked Psychiatric Floor today. One of the patients said to me, “Oh you’re so beautiful but you need a better hairdresser to make you even more beautiful!” Ha ha! This statement would not be acceptable in the workplace but Does speaking the truth make you ill? If we all told and lived our truths a bit more, less of us would be unable to cope. I told her I would look into a new stylist and that her I loved her for the compliment and then gave her a big hug.

Another patient told me about some visions he was having of Jesus and energy exchanges and one other said he was my uncle Rob reincarnated. I don’t dismiss either of these statements quickly. Some of most brilliant, sensitive and highly evolved people in the world (and the next) believe and have experienced Jesus, energy visions and reincarnation memories. Yet these people I meet with are in the hospital needing care both medicinal and psychiatric because they are out of balance and their state of mind has too much control over their behaviors which are not able to be absorbed in the community. This imbalance does not allow them to be the best that they can be in this world and that is when intervention is needed.

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If you think you are immune to Mental Health Issues think again. Really. Think again. I was that person once upon a time. I thought there was a big division between ‘us and them’ and then- bam -just like that it hit me. Down, down, down the deep, dark rabbit hole I went. Even now if I am not fastidious about my spiritual practices  and vigilant about using only organic products I start sinking. The trick is to be hyper-aware of your feelings and state of mind so that any little imbalance or discomfort alerts you to take healing action whatever that may be for you. These healing modalities vary for each person. For some, medication is needed, others need more sleep, some meditation, an outing with friends, etc. The healing options are endless. Sometimes we are tempted to wait this imbalance/discomfort out thinking and hoping and praying that it will go away but if you have a chronic issue it is not likely to go away and delaying treatment is not a good idea. Don’t wait until you are in the depths of despair or at the height of a manic episode to reach for help.

People wait and are reluctant to discuss their experiences with Mental Illness because there is a stigma to it still in some circles. This is what comes to mind for some people when they hear someone is struggling with Mental Illnesses like OCD, anxiety, Bi-Polar, etc.

The reality of this image does exist but it is extreme. More often it is the face of me or you, of your mother, friend or spouse struggling in some way, still functioning but not optimally.

Everyday I work with clients who are struggling with Mental Health Issues. I salute them for knowing that they need to address the problems, for admitting that they need help, for being brave enough for reaching out and dragging themselves into my office week after week to work on themselves in order to be the best that they can be.

 

All the services I provide help people (including myself) work on becoming the best possible version of themselves. Yoga, Meditation, Life Coaching, Reiki, Crystal Healing, a combination of aforementioned plus education via reading and journaling are all a part of the health journey that I have found lifesaving.

Of course I am not claiming that these things alone will necessarily eradicate mental illness although it does happen. (See this movie documentary if you can: Heal to see just how powerful the mind and alternative health  methods are in improving our minds and bodies.) Some advanced and deeply rooted issues need medical and medicinal interventions but all these Alternative Health Services are a great support for the person suffering and will give them a chance to take some control in their own healing process. It is important that we not give control of our healing away to anyone. The patient knows, deep down – sometimes way deep down – what they need and certainly they should play a part in their own healing.

That is one major goal I have with all of my clients – to get them to touch their own inner knowledge, their higher knowledge, their intuition. Through all of these methods and practices we move closer to that higher power we all possess but have let go amidst the craziness and conditioning of the world.

According to the World Health Organization, NIMH and APA these are recent statistics on this issue:

  • 1 in 5 (or 43.8 million) adults experience mental illness in a given year.
  • 1 in 25 (or 10 million) adults experience a serious mental illness.
  • 1 in 100 (or 2.4 million) live with schizophrenia.
  • 2.6% (or 6.1 million) of Americans have bipolar disorder.
  • 6.9% (or 16 million) suffer from severe depression.
  • 18.1% (or 42 million) live with an anxiety disorder.

Mental Health is clearly a major issue which won’t be fixed quickly or easily but we can do our little part by making ourselves aware of the prevalence of Mental Illness and encouraging people suffering with it at whatever level to talk about it without shame, to reach out for help and to have hope for healing.

Love, Lisa purple_heart

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June is National PTSD Awareness Month

And today, June 27, 2017 is National PTSD Awareness Day so I thought I’d share some of what I’ve learned about this debilitating condition while working with clients suffering from but triumphing over this situation.

June is PTSD Month, REiki of Greater Boston, Waltham

Common Causes

  • Car accidents
  • Child neglect
  • Emotional Abuse
  • Kidnapping
  • Natural disasters
  • Physical assault
  • Plane crashes
  • Rape/sexual assault
  • Sexual or physical abuse
  • Sudden death of a loved one
  • Terrorist attacks
  • War
  • Other major traumatic events

Some Signs & Symptoms

  • Angry/Irritable
  • Avoidance of certain places, events, that remind a person of the trauma
  • Avoiding activities once enjoyed
  • Constantly tense or on-edge
  • Disruptions in everyday routine
  • Easily startled
  • Emotional numbing
  • Engaging in self-destructive behavior
  • Feeling detached
  • Flashbacks
  • General memory issues
  • Hallucinations
  • Hopelessness about future
  • Insomnia
  • Nightmares
  • Overwhelming guilt or shame
  • Sensitivity to light, sounds and/or touch
  • Trouble concentrating

Common Effects

  • Agoraphobia
  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Autoimmune diseases
  • Chronic pain
  • Decreased ability to have successful interpersonal relationships
  • Depression
  • Difficulty feeling emotions
  • Dissociative symptoms
  • Eating disorders
  • Hallucinations
  • Heart disease
  • Loss of employment
  • Nightmares
  • Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)
  • Other anxiety disorders
  • Paranoia
  • Physical health problems
  • Self-harm
  • Separation or divorce
  • Social isolation and withdrawal
  • Substance abuse and addiction
  • Suicidal thoughts, attempts or completed suicide

Recommended Treatments

Most commonly recommended:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Group Therapy, Family Therapy
Medications such as anti-depressants.In addition it is recommended to take time to relax via proven techniques such as Meditation, Deep Breathing, Massage, Yoga and Reiki. These treatments can activate the body’s relaxation response and ease symptoms of PTSD.

Statistics

If you or a friend are in crisis, here are the recommended resources to tap according to the National Center for PTSD:

Call 911
Go to the nearest Emergency Room

Call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255
Contact the Veterans Crisis Line: 1-800-273-8255, press 1 (text 838255)To Learn more see National Center for PTSD.

Love, Lisa purple_heart

ps-Caveat here: I am not pretending to be an expert in this disease. It is complicated and anyone suffering needs assistance from a professional specializing in this area. I am only just learning, doing my best to help people learn how to relax and trust again. With this post I am merely doing my small part in promoting Awareness of PTSD. It’s real.Owner Reiki of Greater Boston, Waltham, LIfe Coach, Yoga

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Banish Holiday Stress In A Snap!

Holiday Stress Meter, Combat Stress at Reiki of Greater Boston, Waltham

Holiday Stress Meter, Combat Stress at Reiki of Greater Boston, WalthamIs Holiday stress creeping up on you? If so, know that you are not alone! Do you know what it is about the holiday season that makes you crazy? It might be helpful to identify the specific cause(s) because then you can more accurately target your nemesis. Is it the incessant playing of the same 10 Christmas Songs over and over beginning on Thanksgiving?  Is it the commercialization of what initially was a sacred day? Buy this, buy that and garish red and green decorations everywhere you look? Spoiled children and unaware adults thinking it’s all about receiving and therein missing the whole heart of  the holiday? Is it the fear that you will have no one to spend the holiday with or the antitheses of that, that you will be spending the holiday with too many people? Perhaps family, friends that you don’t have much in common with and/or who push your buttons? Worried about not having enough money to buy ‘good’ gifts? Argh & blah.

Take control I say. Here’s how.

#1.  Just Say No

Say no to stress at Reiki of Greater Boston, Waltham

Say ‘no’ to invitations you are not thrilled to accept. Yes, people will be pissed and think you are weird but it is your sanity at stake so it’s worth disappointing people. If you feel really badly about denying them your presence you can send a gift basket of some sort wishing them a glorious time at their party, etc.

Combat Holiday Stress with a Treat at Reiki of Greater Boston, Waltham#2.  Plan a Special Treat

Whether you’ll be spending the holiday alone or with others, make sure to have at least one thing planned for that day that you will look forward to. A massage? A sweet desert? A meeting with a friend? A bubble bath?

#3.  Take One Hour a Day

Combat Holiday Stress with Me Time at Reiki of Greater Boston, Waltham

Book some ‘me time’ each and every day during this stressful month. You must actually put it into your calendar and let nothing derail you from taking it. Plan to spend it doing something that brings you joy and/or calm. Some ideas: read, cook, draw/paint, make music, learn something new: a language, an instrument, woodworking, etc., walk, workout, see a movie. I could go on and on because the list is limited only by your imagination. Just one hour a day. Do it!

#4.  Be in Silence

Combat Holiday Stress with Silence at Reiki of Greater Boston, Waltham

I have in mind you sitting in meditation, chanting and reaching nirvana but I know that is a pipe dream.  My earthy, practical nature tells me something a bit less spiritual will have to do. Here it is: Turn off the TV, the phone, the radio, the computer! I know it is scary but it is amazing how healing this is. Try it for a couple of hours when you get home from work and see how it feels. Do this for at least a couple of days for the effects to kick in. Give your body & mind a break from constant bombardment of ‘noise’ most of which is negative.

#5.  Move

Combat Holiday Stress with Movement at Reiki of Greater Boston, Waltham

Not from your home. Move your body! Ideally work yourself up to the point of sweating to release toxins caused by stress. If you belong to a gym schedule at least one day/week to take a class or work out for an hour. If you don’t belong to a gym then take a walk, a bike ride, snow shoe, do an exercise class on your TV/computer. I like Cody. They offer paid programs but also some free classes too. Here’s their free schedule for this month.

Try 1 or all 5 of these stress busters and poof you’ll be good as new! For those wanting more ideas for calm you will find some here and for those of you living near me you can also grab a Reiki Session and/or attend our Sound Healing Meditation with Tibetan Bowls. And no matter what you’re doing, always breathe in deeply and exhale completely. Ahhh. Just doing that made me relax. Try it!

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Love Packages Sent From Earth: Crystals

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Crystals are little love packages sent from the earth!  Each stone has its own vibrational blueprint depending on how, when and where they were formed. They hold millions of years of the earth’s history and since ancient times have been providing healing and guidance to our race. I’m sure you’ve seen crystals, maybe even been attracted to one or 2? These gems can help move you toward physical and emotional joy! Now that you know that, why not try working with a few? There are stones in various shapes, colors, sizes, textures and vibrational frequencies and they are all beautiful! Each one has healing properties for one or more physical or emotional ailments. Have headaches? Try amethyst. Back pain? Blue Kyanite. Sadness? Carnelian. Below are some commonly used crystals along with some of the situations they can assist with. Bear in mind however that the effects of each crystal can be different for each person.*

Crystals I Use Daily In Treatment of my Clients

  • Amethyst-Protection, purification, Divine connection, release of addictions, sleep
  • Selenite -Spiritual connection,  Connection with spirit guides and angels, Clearing space
  • Crystal QuartzConnection with spirit guides, energy cleansing
  • Blue Lace Agate -Communication, heart healing
  • Lapis Lazuli – Truthful communication,
  • Rose Quartz -Love, gentleness, emotional healingcrystal-medley
  • Lepidolite -Emotional healing and balance,  serenity, relaxation, stress relief
  • MalachiteClearing out of old patterns,creativity, confidence, protection
  • Apache’s TearsEmotional healing, protection, psychic tuning
  • Citrine -Manifestation, personal will, mental clarity, creativity
  • Blood Stone -Strength, courage, purification, vitality
  • Moon Stonefertility issues,self-discovery, intuition, insight, dream remembrance
  • Carnelian -Courage, sexuality, vitality, confidence, action
  • ApatiteSpeeding metabolism, Psychic activation
  • HematiteGrounding, manifestation
  • Ruby -Life force, courage, passion, strength
  • GarnetStrength, security
  • Black TourmalineProtection
  • Smokey QuartzGrounding, practicality, organization

There are many more types of crystals but this will give you a nice little tool box for yourself to treat the most common of issues that visit.

How to Purchase and Choose Your Crystals

You can purchase these on line. A couple of my favorite sites are: healingcrystals.com & http://www.innervisioncrystals.net.

An even better way to purchase these gems is in person. In the Boston area I recommend:  7 Stars, Cambridge and Enchanted Fox, Medway. Also Kyle at Crystal Concentrics opens his crystal space in Arlington about once a month.

crystal-shoppeWhen you go crystal shopping plan to spend a little time there, ‘trying them on’. First stand in front of the display, close your  eyes and take some deep breaths. (Don’t worry about the staff thinking you’re crazy. In these type of stores they are used to this and are well versed in these methods of intuition.) Then open your eyes and see which 1 or 2 crystals are calling your attention.  Pick them up one at a time and hold them in your hand for a bit, see how they make you feel. Try a few of each of the crystals that got your attention and then purchase your favorite either based on the color, size, shape, or feeling it gives to you. Practice being open and  receptive and you will be drawn to a stone that will have meaning for you and will move you energetically toward whatever you need at this time.

How to Work with Your Crystals

Wear them!  Either put them in a little satchel in your pocket or tape them directly onto your skin. Women can wear them in their bras. For the latter make sure you’ve purchased smooth crystals.

Wear them as jewelry!  The 2 on-line sites and 3 store-front sites I mentioned above all sell crystal jewelry. Another fabulous crystal jewelry site is: Lunar Skye. This is a company based in MA and owner Trish, a Reiki Practitioner purchases quality gems, makes each piece herself and infuses them with Reiki energy.bracelet-protection

Sleep with them under your pillow.  Just that.  So simple.

Meditate with them. Just a quick 5 minute sit-down, holding the crystal(s). Tune into your breathing and then simply listen to what the crystal might be saying to you or how it might be making you feel. If you’re not used to tuning into your intuition or higher powers this may take some time. Keep at it. It’s worth it!

Create Crystal Grids.  A crystal grid is an arrangement of crystals in a geometric shape. There are grid templates that you can purchase but I just like to make my own designs and set it with what ever intention I have at the time. Place a stone center piece and then play with symmetrical arrangements around that. You can also write your intention on piece of paper and place it under your center piece. Try it, it’s fun!

crystal-grid

Use a Wish Box. One final way that I often use crystals when I have a wish or goal I’m working on is to write that down on a small piece of paper and insert it into a decorative box. Then I choose a crystal that I feel would help me progress in these areas. Just trust your intuition on choosing the stones. At first it is uncomfortable but soon you will ‘just know’ which crystals are ‘right’.  Once chosen, I put a couple of that type of crystal in the box with the wish/goal and watch the magic happen.

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Whatever you do, do not just throw your crystals in your purse or stick them in a drawer or on a night stand. You must cultivate a relationship with them for them to do the most intense work. Like a relationship – you must feed it or it will dwindle and maybe even die out.

Reiki Healing with Crystals – Come in for a 60 minute Reiki Healing with Crystals and experience the power of both! ($80.00) Make your appointment here.

How To Cleanse Your Crystals

sCleanse your Crystals at least once per week and more often if you use them daily. It’s also a good idea to clear your crystal when you first get them.washing-crystalsCrystals can gather energy from thoughts, touch, emotions, etc. so cleansing and recharging is important to keep your crystals working optimally.

The simplest ways to recharge your Crystals:

  • Run under cool, clean Water for 2-3 minutes (most crystals can be wet but not all so check before you drown them!)
  • Submerge in a bowl of Dry Rice overnight
  • Submerge in a bowl of Sea Salt overnight
  • Set out in the Moonlight overnight
  • Pass them through the Smoke of a sage or incense
  • Play them some high vibe meditational Music.

So if you choose to try using crystals to improve your health and wellbeing, let me know how it goes for you. As you begin to tune in to crystals and their vibrations you will become more aware of many additional vibrations around you. You will also likely want to learn more about Crystal Healing as you discover its benefits. There are many more ways to work with these Gems and many more gems available to assist you in your search for health and happiness. I will be happy to share my knowledge with you! Bring your crystals in when you come in for a Reiki or Life Coaching session and I will infuse them with some Reiki energy which will enhance their strength and healing power.

Enjoy your love packages!

*Disclaimer: Crystal Healing, Reiki & Yoga are intended to be used as a complement to traditional medical care or as a personal relaxation and stress-reducing tools. They are not a substitute for medical/psychological diagnoses or treatment.

Love, Lisa purple_heart

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